Ladies, no matter how hard they try, many men will not be able to relate or fully understand the impact that menopause can have on our lives. If you feel like banging your head on the wall because your husband is making light of your hot flushes, or doesn’t understand why you can’t control your outbursts, this letter is for him…
Unless you’re actually going through or have been through menopause, it’s not something you will ever understand 100%. But that’s okay, we can accept that because the same could be said for many other life experiences. You can try to have empathy, but it’s not until you’re actually going through something that you finally ‘get it’. Fortunately for you, this is something you will never have to deal with. However, despite this, what you can try to do is understand that for many women, menopause is an extremely difficult, uncomfortable part of our lives. It’s a challenge to remain sane and function at the same level as we did before. That’s why it’s so important we have your full support.
“But surely it’s not that bad, it’s a ‘natural’ process?”
Childbirth is a natural process, but it’s still excruciating. Menopause is a natural process and yes every woman will go through it, but that doesn’t mean it’s not ‘that bad’. There are some very lucky women who breeze through menopause. For the majority of us, this is just not the case!
“What’s the big deal about a hot flush?”
Please let me step in here and explain that a hot flush is not the same as feeling a bit warm on a summer’s day, or stepping into a piping hot shower when you’ve come out the cold. A hot flush can leave you feeling as though your entire body has been set alight! Just imagine that for one minute. Although I might look only slightly flustered, I actually want to jump directly into the nearest industrial-sized freezer… and stay there.
Please try not to tell us that menopause is “ruining your life” or distressing you in any way. You might feel fed up with our constant ups and downs, but imagine how we feel? We can completely understand that our outbursts and chaotic emotions are not fun to live with, but it’s not something we have control over. Making us feel even worse about it does not fix the problem.
Thankfully, I have stumbled across LaBalance; a natural device designed to reduce or completely eliminate up to 24 different symptoms (including mood swings). This device has been proven effective in up to 71% of women. I am hoping that within 3 months of wearing my LaBalance device 24/7, I will feel like the old me.
Disclaimer: We are not suggesting that ALL men are clueless regarding menopause, or that ALL men are unsupportive and lack understanding. We have simply learnt, through listening to your stories over the years, that you wish your husbands/partners could better understand what you are going through. Shout out to all those patient, empathising men who are there for us every step of the way. Check out one of our previous articles ‘we all need support through menopause‘.